When the world’s toughest man alive tells you “adversity is a sign of growth”, you know damn well that it’s not just motivational b.s., that there’s a figure to back up that statement. (David Goggins)
We live in a society where things are too easy, so there’s more to complain about, more reasons to not do something, give up, move on, because we didn’t get the results we expected, we didn’t get the chance we think we deserved, we find every excuse possible to blame the circumstances and we go on about our lives believing it was never meant to be.
We watch motivational videos on YouTube, we think those videos will magically change on our lives, we refuse to incorporate the ethics and discipline required to achieve the level we dream of.
We don’t want to make sacrifices, we don’t want to change…why would we?
“I want the world to change for me” — it’s not true, it’s a copout.
Nobody will hand it out to you, and not every where you go will be comfortable.
You make the decision of what kind of human being you can be proud of.
You see a post, you think “Wow this person does so well, of course they must’ve had something special” — there was nothing special about it except that they were determined.
My life was too comfortable, I grew up with a loving family — many said it’s a blessing, I had to make it a curse for myself to grow.
My parents were and still are to this day (I’m 26 now) over-protective, they worry about me when I’m sparring, they worry I’ll drop the bench press bar and break my neck, they worry when I book myself a flight to travel, they worry and they worry…it’s not their fault, they love me — so of course they worry.
It’s me who has to cut the umbilical cord.
They’ll keep treating me like a child, because I keep acting like one.
I had to forcible create circumstances that were uncomfortable.
I had to lie, make up a story for why I was doing what I was doing because they didn’t understand.
Because the scars would be too painful for them to witness, and they’d convince me to give up.
It was only when I achieved what I needed, that I could proudly announce to them why I lied all along — and it earned a special place.
It earned me their respect.
My opinion was now valuable.
I wasn’t just one of their children, I was worthy of being treated like an adult.
My parents started asking me for advice, it amazed me how much value they started putting into my opinions.
They witnessed the change, and they respected it.
Because it was only when I developed respect for myself, that the people around me grew to understand my determination.
Make yourself uncomfortable, do something that is out of your comfort zone.
And make a decision,
How easily you wish to quit,
No matter how difficult it seems — you’ll pursue it.