If you wish to monetise on your current identity and the body that you’ve been blessed with; the best thing for you to do is associate with a label or a social movement.
I don’t; because I don’t feel that I have anything to monetise on that I’ve really earned yet.
I don’t like the term “I’m Proud of be Pakistani”, because I’ve not yet done anything of substance, except for being born in the country, to claim rewards for contributing to society.
I don’t like the term “I’m Proud of be Muslim”, because I feel that it’s my interpersonal belief and is not wholly reflective of me.
I don’t like the term “I’m Proud to have Great Parents”, because I have yet to repay them for all the years that they’ve contributed into making me the person that I am today; from whipping my poop to paying for my college — they’ve yet to give up on me.
I don’t like the term “I’m proud”, because quite frankly I believe these are things I should be grateful for, not be proud of.
There’s nothing to be proud of attributes I was born into; instead there is a great deal of gratitude that I feel that I had a happy upbringing and grew up to be a fairly decent human being.
Which is why I don’t like associating myself with any ‘labels’ or ‘societies’, because I were to proclaim that I am proud to belong to certain society then society would assume that that is all there to me; when there is so much that I feel make me and you unique.
For example just because I identify with the Muslim faith, does not mean I do not support Gay Marriage — as a matter of fact as a kid that was bullied throughout high school, I feel empathy and love for them. But I don’t think it would be fair of me to say, assume, that being in love with the same sex is all that there is to an individual.
Doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy Music or go out clubbing; surely God would understand that Humanity and Kindness are more important that spending my life judging other people for things that do not bother me.
I don’t associate with any particular Political belief, because I’m conflicted and therefore lack the substance to assume everything that a Political party believes in are my beliefs too.
For example I’m Pro-Choice but also Pro-Gun, I’m for Gay-Marriage but believe in God, I support Freedom of Speech and do not support the Death Penalty.
Doesn’t mean that that is all that there is to me.
Which is why I don’t label myself, I don’t choose to be a part of a movement that will instantly assume that I must abide by and undoubtedly believe in everything there is.
There’s more to me than the colour of skin, place of birth, cultural identity, sexual identity; things which I was born with.
They have nothing to do with being me ‘Proud of’, instead they are things that I can learn to appreciate and nurture, but not let them define me.
There’s more to me than being Proud of attributes that I’ve done absolutely nothing to strive towards; instead I am Proud to be alive today and hold the belief that my values are only opinions, much like the Human Race, they evolve; I shouldn’t be tied down to a belief system I’m unwilling to modify as times change or subject myself to an Identity that I think is unequivocally unwavering.
We’re all human beings; and there’s really only two basic truths that I know to be fact, we’re born and we die. What happens in between is how we choose to define ourselves, whether it be shaped by society or culture, a belief system, or a simple Month that ends up defining an astrological sign that will assume everything there is to be understood about our personality.
There’s more to us than that and I do not wish to be ‘labelled’ to be understood and be associated with a notion held as a whole regarding my aesthetics or a particular sociopolitical association.
What I am proud of is my love of reading, my love of writing, my love of Tom Waits, my love of cigarettes, my academic achievements, my imaginary Lamborghini, and my Parrot that doesn’t know how to speak but refuses to fly away when I leave the doors open.
Surely we can all find it in ourselves something to be proud of, of which we weren’t born into; but achieved as a result thereof.
And if I were to define myself in one word, and prefer ‘label’, I’d choose to call myself a Humanitarian. Because I’m proud to claim that the one attribute that has always brought me happiness is Kindness.