TURN DOWN FOR WHAT?
Oh wait, wrong story.
Ever watch a successful person give a motivational video, and heard them say “I tune out the noise”; and you probably think “Hey that sounds like something a Rapper would say to their Haters”.
There is truth to it, even though it sounds pretentious.
People talk, sometimes some people talk too much.
Some times, some people talk, when they probably shouldn’t.
What are we going to do?
Engage in a fruitless conversation?
Entertain them like we’re clowns?
Here’s what I do, and it’s helped me a great deal —
Not everybody will understand your life, trust me — even the most loving people in your life will doubt you sometimes and it will hurt.
“Why do you keep writing everyday when you don’t succeed?”
“Why do you keep running, you don’t even need to lose weight?”
“Why don’t you ever let loose?”
“Why don’t you eat this fast food we got here?”
“Why do you do this?”
“Why do you do that?”
— You react, get angry, get annoyed, maybe even shout;
“BECAUSE I DON’T WANT TO”.
You seem edgy, nobody understands, and you waste all your mental energy— tune them out.
Learn to nod and smile, separate the music from the noise.
It takes practice, but this is how I’ve trained my brain to be able to tune out anything and anybody that is not worth my time.
Why should I bother explaining something to someone who won’t / doesn’t want to understand?
They just want to judge, because deep inside they don’t understand how you do the things that they can’t do.
It’s their projection — you seem like a better version they wish they were.
They want the freedom you seem to have, and it drives them insane.
You’re nothing like them, and it enrages them.
They will try, they will keep trying, to lure you in through temptation.
“Just give up”
Don’t do it.
People that aren’t worth a millisecond of your time, don’t deserve your attention.
Don’t even bother arguing, they don’t even deserve an explanation.
Focus, bring your attention back to your brain.
It takes time, but it helps.
Start by trying it in isolation, just repeat your name to your self in your brain.
Keep it at whatever pace you like.
Keep doing it, no matter how distracting it is or how foolish it seems.
Keep doing it without focusing or worrying about anything else.
You don’t have to worry about deep breathing, just find a comfortable place.
Keep repeating your name in your brain until the urge to repeat it disappears.
If you’re able to achieve this, move forward — now develop a pattern.
Every time you observe or find yourself in a situation you don’t wish to engage in.
Gossip, Social Gathering, Useless advice, People bragging about how they’re better than you…tune them out.
Bring your attention back, pretend you’re back in that room of isolation — you’re still looking at these people, but you’re no longer focusing on them.
You start off with the same process, repeat your name to yourself.
This helps your ego.
Now once you have control, you focus on what matters.
“My writing matters”
“My diet matters”
What ever it is that matters to you, you keep repeating that.
Slowly, you develop to do this intuitively.
It becomes subconscious muscle memory.
You can drive out the noise, and not let it penetrate you.
It’s how I developed thick skin, and was able to pursue and persevere through doubt.
No psychologist or psychotherapy could help me.
I was riddled with anxiety and self-hate.
“Maybe they’re right”
I just needed to learn how to tune out the noise.
Good luck. :)