Nothing hurts more than “Indifference”.
Stop it, stop blaming circumstances, stop ponder what could’ve been done, stop listening to what should’ve been done, stop guessing what would’ve been done.
Stop. It’s done.
And take a moment…focus.
Because what we do from here is what matters.
That’s all it takes from being a raging lunatic to being humble and eloquent.
And nothing hurts more than “Indifference”.
Let’s not take it to the extreme but “Indifference” is a quality I think is absolutely necessary to master; but it’s not necessary to use it every time.
Just know you’re neither Superman or Clark Kent.
You’re just another human being, living amongst many others.
I listen to people I care about.
I seek to understand the opinions of people who do not agree with me.
But most of all, I know when to draw the line and be “Indifferent”.
Imagine this, you open up your computer and the media head-line reads — “You’re in Trouble, Stock Markets are falling!”.
You react with panic, call every broker you know,
— “Pull everything out. Sell it all!”.
Only to look back 5-years later, wishing you hadn’t made that call.
Panic got the best of you, and now the same media head-line reads
— “Stock Market is booming”.
So you do what you’ve always done, you buy.
“Be Fearful When Others Are Greedy and Greedy When Others Are Fearful”
— Warren Buffet.
But this simple tactic isn’t just applicable to the stock market, it’s applicable to most every encounter we have in life,
You spilled your coffee, how embarrassing! You shout, you curse, you realise later you looked like a buffoon.
You missed your train, can’t bring the train back; but you continue to curse, oh how the train schedule has deceived you.
You fight with your partner, you say things you wish you hadn’t; look back and wonder how you would’ve done it differently.
I like being indifferent, because I’m selfish — I care about my mental comfort.
Trust me, that’s what the rest of the people will do when shit hits the fan.
People will worry about saving their children before they worry about saving you from the sinking ship, you’re the last thing on their mind.
If It’s survival, then it’s on you.
Nobody else will throw you a bone, don’t expect them to; but remember to grateful if they do.
Relationships end, sometimes for no reason at all — people grow apart.
It’s worth putting in the effort to try and save something which is worth it; but if you truly care about your partner who really isn’t happy with you — let them go.
Don’t look back in hatred for how much happier they are without you — instead appreciate the “indifference”.
It doesn’t affect me how miserable I am without the partner, it shouldn’t — it’s part of life, and as such it’s time to move on like the partner has.
Dwelling on something that’s lost, won’t be your saviour.
It’ll be your destruction of the ability to see clearly into the future.
Appreciate and garner the energy of being “indifferent”, pursue something else — something better, something that’s worth a lot more than just a few good times.
Pursue something that’s not destructive to you.
And good things will happen, they always do.
— Nothing good has ever come to me from panic and impatience.