Most people will give up, persist.
Life isn’t a movie, and no matter how many Motivational clips you’ve watched or Self-Help books you’ve collected; none of that matters.
Here’s why, most people will run away at the first rejection.
Most people will give up, because it didn’t go their way.
Well guess what? This is your opportunity.
Life has made it so easy for us to succeed, yet we still find every reason for why it’s not working.
The “time” wasn’t right.
I wasn’t in the “moment”.
I’m waiting for “inspiration”.
Hard-Work is underrated, and the problem is we fall victim to pseudo-intellectualism.
We fall victim to believing we’re destined for greatness, just because we follow the “Success” mantra.
Wake up early,
Law of Attraction, Visualise.
But never put in the work ethic required to succeed.
Nobody likes hearing the cold brutal truth, why would we?
We want the sugar-coated version of success.
We want that emotional background music with a voice of intensity saying “Chase your dreams!”.
Keep chasing them, but know that hard-work will almost always out do any collection of lucky charms.
Life will throw you opportunities, exploit them — go the distance.
Most people don’t, because we complain too much.
We have every possible reason for why it doesn’t seem to work out.
I get well-over 500 Applicants for Research Positions, 60% of them never come back after the first initial interview.
Their remarks? “It was offensive and I didn’t appreciate the vibe”.
The vibe that I was not sugar-coasting how earning a Doctorate is no-cake walk?
The vibe that I didn’t instil a false sense of hope, but chose to be realistic?
The vibe that I didn’t say “You’ll be great” instead of “It requires hard-work, and persistence to succeed”.
The fact that I mentioned “Prepare for rejection, your first few drafts will be ripped to shreds”.
Think about it, if my honesty was enough to scare you off; how were you planning to succeed in this pursuit?
How would you ever understand rejection, when you run away instead of facing it?
How will you ever appreciate when the moment finally comes, if you haven’t put in the hours needed to get there?
If you want an empty trophy, take one of mine — I don’t give a shit.
But if you want me to help you, you need to accept reality.
Most people don’t want to.
Most people don’t wish to face the harsh reality that life is difficult.
And that the success stories we hear don’t often talk about the struggle.
It makes for a damn good movie and a great speech, but if you truly want to succeed — don’t just stare teary eyed at how emotional that speech was, act on it.
Act on your failures, learn from them.
In this pursuit, if you want mediocrity — it’s simple; don’t do anything that requires you to feel uncomfortable.
If you wish to succeed, you have to be honest with yourself — because there will be failures and there will be critics and there will be hatred.
If you can pull yourself together, you’ll succeed.
On record, I’m a failure — I wasn’t meant to be successful.
I believed in nothing but hard-work.
I failed and failed and failed, until failure didn’t scare me anymore.
I looked forward to defeat.
It was in my lowest of moments that I learnt more about perseverance and how badly I wanted to continue on my journey.
If you want motivation, earn it.
Nobody will throw you a bone if you’re willing to give up on yourself at the first sight of discomfort.
Some years ago, a student came to me for help with a thesis — she wanted to explore the Human Mind.
I worked in Data Analytics and knew nothing about the human mind; so I simply said,
“How can I help? Because I know nothing, but if you educate me. I promise I’ll do my best to help.”
The answer, “I didn’t come to you to learn about the human mind. I came to talk to you about how the sight of an open human body scares me to death. My supervisor said you’re the person to talk to.”
I thought to myself, how do I help a student who is scared of looking at an open human body? Surely, that is a necessity to be a neuroscientist.
I asked if I could have some time to think, give me two days.
I don’t think I’ve ever spent that much time to figure out what possible advice I could provide.
So I simply asked, “Why the human mind?”
The student replied, “Because it’s fascinating”
“What else? What brought you to where you are today? What can we find that gives you the will to continue?”
“I care about mental illness.”
“That’s good, you care. Your hands will shake during surgery…?”
“I can’t stand the sight of it…”
“Then let’s fix that, let’s find patients who struggle with diseases. It’ll be unsavoury, it might make you vomit. But you’ll figure out if it’s worth it at the end of the trip.”
So she did, the brave student sailed on by herself — exploring mental institutions and observing patients who suffered with dementia.
A world I, honestly admit, would be too squeamish to observe.
But she did, and when it was done — she didn’t need anybody’s help.
All she needed was a look at what was wrong with the world, and how far one can condition their brain to find the will to persevere.
When I retold this story to another student, who wished to pursue a thesis on “homelessness” — they couldn’t even find the courage to talk to a homeless individual on the street. Let alone visit a shelter.
How would they succeed if I told them to visit the bridge underneath which the homeless live, when they couldn’t even talk to the one sitting beside a street?
I can’t help that individual, because that individual has already made up their mind.
They had a vision of “homelessness”, but lacked the will to explore the vision.
So ask yourself this, if you’ll run away from rejection; what else will you run away from?