Most certainly, I think in the long-term it’s the healthy way to deal with things. The last thing you want to be is a man-child or “fake” nice-guy attitude where everything you do ends up being an act towards wanting a “sexual” reward for it. I had this conversation with a buddy of mine recently, and it tends to be a breeding mechanism for guys who just feel like they’ll miss out and so tend to settle or make things up just for the sake for it. Which just ends up doing more damage. Considering the fact that, after 30s nobody really wants to put up with b.s. anymore; it’s just easier to be honest. Just recognise and self-reflect; and trust me people will learn to respect you a lot more for being reasonable. I can relate to the “turn off” part, where if you explicitly state you’re not looking for a relationship or even like a one-night stand type thing, which really I’m not into either — tends to push people away; but I feel as though that’s more of a defensive mechanism of dealing with rejection. I’ve found a way to neutrally let people know I’m not giving off the wrong vibes, in my experience I just remain friendly and treat every encounter like any other and after a while it just normalises. As a result, I’ve made some excellent friends and it’s certainly helped me a great deal with being much more comfortable around women with the whole “guessing game” being out of the equation because we’re on the same page and they know I’m not pulling any sleazy moves on them. It’s certainly healthy.
Kudos to you, and thanks for leaving a comment.
Appreciate it.
Kind Regards,
Nabeel.

I failed to learn the piano, so I decided I’d play the keyboard instead. //All aboard the Crazytrain.

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