Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. — Khalil Gibran.
It may sound corny, but only in losing our identity do we discover who we truly are. An escape from who we are, because we reach for acceptability and would rather pursue in pleasing the masses. As we mature, we learn more about ourselves; what we need and don’t need. We find that we’ve been the shoulder to cry on for much longer than we’ve been offered one. In this pursuit of what we believe, life as a journey and taking in experience — there comes a time when you realise “I’ve had enough…”, most people never reach that because they get too drawn into pleasing society. Think of social media and how pathetic it seems that people who seem rather “wealthy” feel the need to seek constant affirmation by “sharing” everything they experience, their luxurious lifestyle to further the addictive nature of always seeking pleasure from others.
Yet, when we detach ourselves — find the courage to be alone, most people are often pessimistic and dismissive, they’ll assume you’re withdrawn from society; but it is in these moments we find who we truly are and what drives us. Once you tap into that, you can only do it solitude — and compromises must be made. You realise what’s most important and what isn’t.
I do believe, you’re on that path of pursuing what drives you — and soon you’ll realise that the world that you were once trying to constantly please by faking an identity, now thrives for your attention because when we immerse ourselves deeply into what makes us tick; there’s a universal glow that shines from within because you are no longer concerned with pleasing others, you are completely satisfied with your owning up to who you are. Instead people will be drawn to you because of your respect for yourself and your vision of life. It’s an intuitive feeling, that once you’re so driven to what you need to accomplish — people will chase after you.
Wonderfully written, wish you all best. :)
If you find that you have time to spare, I’d highly suggest watching this clip (it’s about 25 mins, 6:15 onwards is a crucial part) — it helped me a great deal as I too once struggled with my identity.
Warm Regards and Good luck with your endeavours,