Hello Yacine,

Thank you reading through my post, and your opinion is deeply valued.

I agree, there needed to be more perspective regarding bringing up Jordan Peterson; I hope I can break it down in a coherent manner. I’ll try my best. :)

Growing up, and having had great mentors — who recognised value in me and basically were physically present for me through my dark times; I developed a better outlook on life.

Unfortunately, most young children do not always get the opportunity.

When I was Professor at my University, students loved coming to my office to have a chat — I realised it wasn’t because they were trying to get on my good-side. It was because they had no one else they could relate to, they were searching for a mentor or a confidant. Some one such as the one portrayed by Robin Williams in Dead Poets Society.

When people fail to find a physical mentor, we naturally search for idols — and whilst it’s great to find idols; there’s also a sense of fallacy that gets created.

Most of my students have suggest Jordan Peterson to me and how brilliant he is, and I always tell them “I don’t agree with him, but if he’s of help to you — by all means, devote your time to his work”.

Where I am in disagreement with Jordan Peterson is his idea of skimming down responsibility to bare basics, as though every individual is the same.

As though every young man must conduct themselves the same way.

Such as his famous “Sit with your shoulders back”, it’s these kind of fallacies that I don’t think add any value at all. I think it invites a sense of hatred in young men rather than giving them a sense of purpose.

I always found compassion to be a healthy tool, I don’t tell my students how to dress or how to sit — I want them to absorb the knowledge, and not take my words but rather look at something I do as an example.

Which is how I was mentored, I was never told to “Act” in a way that was forced, but rather was ingrained within me by following Two men I deeply admired and am grateful for.

The message I was hoping to get across was this, we should pick our mentors carefully.

It’s one thing to drawn by someone who has a following and a persona.

It’s another to follow and truly be moved by their work; as an example — I absolutely adored Christopher Hitchens, although I am a Muslim and he was an Atheist, I found wisdom in his work; because he was never dismissive, never out to insult people, never to berate, but most all he was willing to put himself through the test. He did not force his opinions, he never said “so and so should act in such a way”, but rather he spoke from experience and what he truly felt.

And those are the kind of mentors I’m drawn to, rather than let’s say a motivational speaker who is basically just getting a pay check to repeat a speech voiced several times before.

In this day and age, we all need mentors; and as such much choose wisely if given the opportunity.

Kind Regards,
Nabeel. :)

I failed to learn the piano, so I decided I’d play the keyboard instead. //All aboard the Crazytrain.

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