Born in a culture; where women to this day do not have the right to claim “rape” within a marriage, where divorced women are looked as damaged property, where men commit debauchery but put mental shackles on what they call “their women”, I would say I wholeheartedly do agree with you. One of the primary qualities looked upon during a marriage within my culture is, “Can she cook?” “Can she take care of the house” — it’s disgusting, despicable, and I’m ashamed that I was born in such a culture.
Raised in a progressive family, we were always made aware by both our parents that the house would function with equal support. Hence, dad cooked sometimes, mum did the dishes, sometimes we all did the dishes or chores around the house; we called it shared responsibility and it bridged a bond that kept us close in a society where we didn’t necessary think we could assimilate.
Much has changed since I’ve grown older, and men are starting to realise that true equality is equal responsibility.
As the culture would have it, we do not have paternity leave but we do have maternity leave; hence, recently when my eldest sister gave birth and she was on her maternity leave my brother-in-law did his best to make sure the house was taken care of, the dishes were done, and my sister was comfortable, all whilst working a 9 to 5 Job.
I think if paternity leave became a norm, then it certainly would impact the effort men are willing to put in maintaining an equally responsible household.
Thank you for writing.